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So I’m only gonna say this once,

ladymisskate:

drinkyourjuice:

but it’s been on my mind a bit since everyone’s been talking about it. And I get it, it’s almost Christmas time and all of those “best of 09” and “best of the decade” lists are coming out and you’re most likely looking at yourself and saying “Hey, this is not ideal. There are some things I wish were different,” and I get that — truly — but you really can’t blame it on 09.

Saying “I can’t wait for 09 to be over” is a cop out and I feel like I’m seeing it a lot on tumblr, so I’m gonna go ahead and throw some oppositional energy out into the universe.

When you say “I can’t wait for 09 to be over,” you’re really saying “I can’t wait for something to fucking change.”

And that’s not 09’s fault.

It’s you.

09 doesn’t even exist.

Like, 09 is an abstract concept that no one but people know about. Deer do not know that 09 is about to be over. Infinity does know that 09 is about to be over.

So when you say “09 really sucked and I just need it to be over” — that’s you.

You have complete and total power over that.

And like, believe me, I know. It’s a recession. We’re young. Things are stressful and scary and oppressive and weird and sometimes really beautiful but also mainly confusing, and I know that adding “poor” or “looking for a steady income” or “not sure what do to with myself but I can’t really afford to ‘find myself’ right now” are all really horrible feelings, and I’ve felt them all in the past year — but the bottom line is that they were all emotions that I’ve allowed myself to feel.

It’s not 09’s responsibility to do right by you. Or 2010’s for that matter.

You’re gonna wake up on January first and things are gonna be more or less the same in your life. Other than a hangover or a drive home ahead of you, you’re gonna be the same lady or dude that went to that party last night. New laws aren’t gonna pass over night, the economy isn’t suddenly going to have a boner, thinking about your ex isn’t going to hurt any less, etc.

The point I’m making here is that you can do it anytime.

You can choose to be happy literally at any time.

And I don’t mean happy like, content with your life and “in a good place.” That’s not a choice. That takes really hard fucking work and commitment to yourself over an extended period of time.

But I mean, you can choose change — you can choose to grow — at any moment of your life.

Rearrange your furniture, read some books, go to a new coffee shop every day — do something that’s different and keep doing different things that are within your realm of control. Do them all the time. Build momentum. New things, new things, new things. And eventually a big decision will come along and you’ll be in a good place to make it because you won’t be pacing around on the internet wondering why things aren’t going your way.

Things are constantly going your way.

You’re constantly given decisions that matter and you have power to choose the cool thing every single time.

You just need to fucking realize what you have control over and what you don’t.

That’s it. I love you. Have a good Thursday.

Bravo.